Can we talk about how super pumped I am that I've gotten to talk to multiple people in the last couple of days about whether they should foster/adopt? Some of them are just curious, but some are seriously feeling the tug of God on their hearts. Regardless of how far along they are in wrestling through it, I'm ecstatic to see people genuinely thinking about what it would look like in their life.
With that said, I've heard a ton of questions and concerns about how fostering/adopting a child would change everything (both good and bad). Let's be honest for a minute..... Raising a kid is hard work. Adopting or fostering a kid is hard work. There are times when I think about how much easier and simpler my life was before I had a kid. But it is SO worth it! Anybody who has ever had a child of their own knows how rewarding and amazing being a parent is. Adoption and fostering are no different.
Granted, not everyone is meant to be a foster or adoptive parent, but I don't want that to be your excuse. Let's put aside the reasons why you SHOULDN'T adopt or foster a child that needs a loving home and then ask God to make the decision for us.
Reasons to Not Adopt or Foster a Child:
- I don't have/make enough money.
- I'm Single.
- My house isn't big enough.
- They might harm or be bad influences to my biological children.
- I'm done parenting. My kids are grown up.
- I'm too old.
- I'm too young.
- We're trying to have biological children.
- We'll adopt after we have kids of our own.
- They have too many problems.
- It takes FOREVER.
- I need to get my life in order first.
I'm just going to throw out there that we qualified for #'s 1,3,7,8,9,10,11,and 12 on that list. God provided beautifully, just as He always promises that He will.
I'm so glad that He didn't look at me when I was lost and forsaken and needing love and make a list of reasons why He couldn't adopt me as His daughter. Put your list away for a moment and ask; really ask Him why you shouldn't.